Anger is a natural, healthy emotion and can be much misunderstood. It is essential to our survival reaction “fight or flight”. Healthy anger is a positive emotion, within boundaries when released appropriately, and in the right proportion.
Anger is a natural response to being treated unfairly, feeling attacked or deceived. We all get angry sometimes and it isn’t always a bad emotion, but a normal human emotion. Appropriately felt, anger can enlighten us to problems and things that are hurting us, encourage us to make change, and of course to help ourselves in more dangerous situations.
Anger becomes a problem when it harms you or the people around you.
Sometimes anger becomes out of control and you can “lose it”, judgement can become impaired and you can lose perspective, finding yourself doing or saying unreasonable and irrational things.
Where does this anger all come from? Sometimes we find that suppressed anger is rooted where unresolved conflict from the past is trying to surface, unconsciously.
There are different ways you might find your anger is showing itself.
When you act out anger you may find you have aggression, shouting, swearing, hitting or throwing things, being physically violent or verbally abusive and or threatening towards others. This can cause you great problems in relationships, at work and sometimes be violent and destructive.
Someone who is acting their anger inwardly may not outwardly lose their temper, but will turn anger in on themselves. This can mean telling yourself you hate yourself, isolating yourself and even self harm. You may say they do not lose your temper, but at the same time feel irritated maybe at the world in general, holding in or suppressing anger. Suppressed anger can go on to cause depression, and low self esteem.
Passive aggressive behaviour
A non-violent expression of anger, you may find you refuse to speak to people when they make you angry, acting in a sulky way or being sarcastic.
Fear of anger
Sometimes suppressed anger can cause a fear of other people being angry, finding it scary and threatening. If this is the case you can find yourself becoming very passive and placid, holding in your feelings and trying to make sure somebody doesn’t “explode” at any time.
Anger can be a mask for other deeper rooted problems such as guilt, shame and insecurity.
Anger problems, as opposed to appropriate anger are not normally due to actual situations of threat or danger. Sometimes having too much on your plate, lots of stress and or overload can trigger inappropriate anger response.
Finding the right treatment for your anger issues can be difficult. Many therapies and treatments offered only offer you “fire fighting” techniques to you once anger is already surfacing. It is important for you to address underlying issues which may but not always be found in painful past experience. These underlying causes need to be worked on as part of a healing process to resolve anger problems.
As you are a unique individual, I offer different approaches to help you resolve your anger problems. Analytical Hypnotherapy will allow you to find and resolve the root causes of your anger problems, or to find and release suppressed anger and other feelings which may be underlying the problem.
I also work with you to help you understand how your beliefs about how you feel are very real to you, and how they are affecting you as an individual. Then we work together to look more deeply at how we can address your beliefs to change. I gently teach you how to understand better your unique personality, and change unhelpful thinking in order to overcome your fear.
You will find yourself in a safe, confidential environment.
I have been practicing helping people with issues around anger for many years now, with very effective results. If you’d like to know more about me and the treatment that I use then please do call or email me and I can invite you in for a FREE CONSULTATION, no obligation, no selling, just to meet and get to know you a little, and talk about therapy and what it involves. Hypnotherapy does not have to be a part of the therapy.