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Sexual Problems

Sexual issues and worries are really very common and one of the most common reasons why people consult with a therapist. Although it can be difficult to approach for help with a personal or sexual problem, you can be assured my professional approach will ensure you are treated with the utmost sensitivity and confidence. Amongst others, some of the very common problems are:


An involuntary tightening of the vagina, which can prevent penetration. Some women find their vagina closes completely, and they cannot even insert a tampon. For some women sex is painful or impossible. Pelvic examinations can be very painful or even impossible. If you suffer from this condition, it may mean that you are afraid to or cannot start a family.

If a physical cause has been ruled out, then if you suffer from vaginismus then the causes can often be psychological, with a fear of penetration, previous sexual abuse, painful past experience such as inserting a tampon or a first experience of sex or a fear of pregnancy.

Impotence or Erectile Dysfunction

An inability to have sexual intercourse because of a failure to have or maintain an erection.

If a physical cause has been ruled out, then psychological causes can often be at fault. You doctor can advise you of possible lifestyle changes, but there can also be underlying psychological reasons such as depression, anxiety, fear of sex, previous difficulty maintaining or having an erection. Previous sexual abuse can also be a cause.

Compulsive Masturbation Disorder

This refers to the condition where you feel an urge to masturbate continuously. Causes can be depression, anxiety and obsessive behaviour. This problem can severely affect your relationships causing you to feel lonely and unsatisfied.

Premature Ejaculation

Described as the ejaculation of semen before or immediately after penetration, premature ejaculation can cause problems in relationships, sometimes resulting in you avoiding relationships altogether. Also known as early ejaculation, rapid climax and premature climax the cause is often a form of performance anxiety, a type of social anxiety. Also if you have experience PE in the past, you can worry about it happening again, and get caught in the cycle of worrying about it, picturing it happening again and subsequently experiencing it again and again.

Anorgasmia, Inability to reach orgasm or orgasmic dysfunction

Described as the inability to achieve orgasm despite responding to or receiving adequate sexual stimulation. If a physical cause has been ruled out, then psychological causes can be depression, anxiety, obsessive thinking and confidence issues, as well as fears surrounding sex, feelings of guilt about enjoying sex  and sometimes previous trauma or sexual abuse.

 You can also get into the cycle of having experienced anorgasmia, and worry about it happening again and so experiencing it again and again.

Lack of libido

Often linked to personal or work stress, it is perfectly natural to lose interest in sex at some point in our lives. This is usually a temporary situation, and resolves itself without any treatment. If physical causes have been ruled out, then psychological causes can be at fault, such as depression or anxiety, lack of confidence and or performance anxiety.


Sexual Inhibitions, Sexual Shyness

Being shy or inhibited sexually can be due to lack of experience, general shyness or social anxiety and performance anxiety. It can also be caused by previous bad experiences or a lack of confidence.


It is important for you to address underlying issues which may but not always be found in painful past experience. These underlying causes need to be worked on as part of a healing process to resolve problems.

As you are a unique individual, I offer different approaches to help you resolve your problems. Analytical Hypnotherapy will allow you to find and resolve the root causes of your problem, or to find and release the feelings which may be underlying your problem.

I also work with you to help you understand how your beliefs about how you feel are very real to you, and how they are affecting you as an individual. Then we work together to look more deeply at how we can address your beliefs to change. I gently teach you how to understand better your unique personality, and change unhelpful thinking in order to overcome your fear.

You will find yourself in a safe, confidential environment.


If you would like to contact me please either email me or call me on 07765 401931 for a FREE CONSULTATION so that I can get to know you a little better and discuss the type of therapy that will suit you best. There is no selling, no obligation and I can give you a better idea of how therapy works and what it involves.


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